Restore God & His Love In Child Rearing & Relationships

Word-Of-The-Day: ‘(14) And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.  (15) Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. (16) Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. (17) And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.’ (Colossians 3:14-17)

I am thankful for Pregnancy Solutions and that many women are choosing to keep their babies as opposed to the evils of abortion.  The scourge of abortion in terms of the moral aspects as well as the scientific thoughts on the viability of the pre-natal fetus was dropping significantly from 2010 to 2020, but with the overturning of Roe V. Wade in the Dobbs decision by the US Supreme Court, there has been a 10% increase nationwide, even though 14 states have great restrictions on the procedure, mostly from the greater use of medications that induce abortion.

While a few states are barbaric in their recent extensions of abortion into post-birth (aka infanticide), others like Florida, Texas and Alabama have limits on abortion when the fetus is viable.  A woman needs encouragement to carry the baby to full-term, and allow it to live and place it up for adoption if she chooses to not want the child.

This brings up another set of issues, however.  While it is good for a woman to choose the baby over abortion, God’s plan was not to have children raised by a single parent.  Statistics show the issues when child raising is solely by a mother without a father figure.    Children raised by a single parent (usually the mother) have behavioral issues that lead to crime, addiction, and psychological problems later in life.  Unfortunately, society celebrates and puts single motherhood on a pedestal, as shows like ‘Teen Mom’ on MTV, or as in the older generation show ‘Murphy Brown’ glorified the concept of a woman having a child without a husband. 

Some women do not want the father to be in the picture, perhaps for valid reasons (abusive, womanizing, abandonment) but there still needs to be a father figure in a child’s life.  A boy needs a father figure to see masculinity (another target of the secular world) in action. To a boy it means to become a man often needs examples and then practical exercise, while a girl needs a father to show her what respect is towards her and what she should expect from a future husband.

This is a dilemma for the Christian; we do not want to condemn the woman who chooses to keep her unborn child, but we also want to honor God’s Word by strongly encouraging the parents (especially through marriage) to stay together if at all possible.  This can be difficult in today’s society as promiscuity doesn’t always mean compatibility.  Thus, children of today needs ‘surrogate’ mentors; grandpas can do some of this by getting more involved in their grandchildren’s lives, but that can be difficult if they live in a different state. 

Organizations like ‘Big Brothers’ can also help, but it is a part-time solution that doesn’t lead to full resolution.  The best solution is for the woman to first seek the Lord, and ask Him to provide her someone who is willing to accept her and her child and marry.  This provides the child with the parental set needed for the proper balance of feminine and masculine support in their lives.

The secular world has devalued physical intimacy (aka ‘sex’) to being only an act, separating the emotion of love from the act.  The secular world places an emphasis on ‘lust’ and not the bonding it creates.  This corresponds to the removal of God from society at large; actions are devoid of God and thus God’s love.  Paul in Colossians 3 writes about the need for living and loving for and as Christ, as the overarching Commandment that Jesus gave in John 13:34: ‘Love one another, as I have loved you’.  Jesus’ love needs to be mirrored, not only in our love for each other, but the love Jesus had for His Father and for His Word. 

With God and His love removed from society (and thus from intimate relations), single parent households have become ‘normal’.  Without father figures, we see not only the growth the crime and depression grow in our young people but we see the growth of deviant behavioral issues, like transgenderism and LGBTQ relations.  How is a young boy or girl know what it is like to have a masculine role model when the father is not around?  It is no wonder that boys think they can do better as girls; we see transgendered men such as Rachel Levine winning People’s Woman of the Year, and Lia Thomas winning the women’s NCAA Swimming title.  Men are outperforming women as ‘acceptable’ pseudo-women, which is really mind-boggling and inconceivable (and in my opinion, just plain stupid for folks to fall for all this nonsense).

We need to spread God’s Word and His love and put it back into society.  Put the love back into physical acts of intimacy, and emphasize Godly marriage between a man and a woman to ensure a child has both its parents.  God has set a balance between masculinity and femininity for our children to grow up in, and His virtues are what should bind the family together.  In those cases where single parenthood can’t be helped (a widow with a small child, for example), mentorships like Big Brothers needs to be encouraged.  Above all else, God needs to be involved in that child’s life.